When the rug is pulled from under your feet: Yasmin Li
In this week’s podcast episode we spoke to Yasmin Li, a digital marketer and calligrapher, she shared her experience of her husband deciding to walk away from their marriage and her journey with forgiveness and staying firm in her identity. As well as how she became a Christian after growing up in a muslim household. Below are some highlights from the discussion.
Forgiveness
This isn’t a quick and easy thing to do and often is a choice we have to make everyday. When we do find it difficult to forgive, it is important to look at ourselves and remember that we aren’t perfect and that we have and will make mistakes that will hurt others. Forgiving doesn't mean that what that person did didn’t hurt us but it's living in the light of what has been done for us.
‘Choose to believe God is good.’
Choosing to Love
In times of disappointment and uncertainty, our natural instinct can be to judge and hate on those around us. It is not wrong to feel upset but it can become unhealthy when what we tell ourselves about those around us is full hate. Choosing to love is incredibly hard but it is the response that will bring the most change and have the greatest impact on not only those around us but also ourselves.
Identity
It can be easy to look at our lives and what we have gone through and decide that those circumstances are who we are. When in actual fact, we have been made for something so much greater than ourselves and have been created to flourish. Our identity will be challenged for the majority of our lives and may change during different seasons, however just because it may change, it doesn’t mean our worth does as well.
‘Hardest part of our identity, is the value of we attach to it’
Who is around you?
During the seasons of hurt, those around us play a huge part. It is therefore important to look at those around you and to see if they are offering support that will be crucial in your healing. As the person receiving the advice, if it is from someone you trust and love, we do need to offer them grace as it may be difficult for them to give advice, especially if it is counter culture.
Words by
Priya Raheja
